21 through 40

21. Spend the afternoon in a cafe/coffee house, curled up with a book
22. Take a cooking class
23. Walk the beach with my husband
24. Walk the beach by myself and just think
25. Get a Brazilian bikini wax
26. Find a haircut I really like
27. Spend a weekend day completely by myself, not even a phone
28. Open an IRA
29. Go out dancing with my husband like we used to
30. Organize my desk drawers and top
31. Take the dogs to obedience school
32. Grill out with all our friends, both mine and my husband's
33. Get the house cleaned professionally, just once
34. Go to a comedy club
35. Read The DaVinci Code
36. Open a Money Market Account
37. Decorate our bedroom
38. Fix the front bumper on my truck
39. Take the dogs to the dog park
40. Get a massage

No. 18...Man I'm quick!

So, I haven't even come up with all 101 things, and I've knocked number 18 off the list. I sent my ex an email, asking why he reappeared after 7 years. He sent me a reply, saying that he never really meant to hide, and he wishes that he had been there for more (any) of Ian's life. Not sure how much I trust, but I feel better having asked.

1 through 20

1. Buy a new house, with more room and a pool
2. Take a 4 day vacation, out of town, with just my husband
3. Go shopping for myself once, without freaking out over the total spent
4. Get a pool table
5. Pay off my truck
6. Build a 3-6 month reserve, separate from our daily checking and savings accounts
7. Spend some real quality time with each of my kids, their own time without interruptions
8. Clean out the garage Well, Steve did that, but it still counts!
9. Buy life insurance for both me and Steve
10. Activate my real estate license
11. Actually sell a house
12. Spend a day at the lake with Steve and the kids
13. Go tubing all the way down the Salt River
14. Eat Greek food
15. Get my tubes tied
16. Buy more fashionable clothes and look more my age
17. Go out for dinner and drinks with my mother, and just enjoy having her as my mom
18. Ask my ex why he left Ian for so long, and then suddenly re-appeared and contacted me
19. Go back to work, even if just for a little while
20. Organize our paperwork, files and receipts

First thoughts...

Ok, now I just have to get creative!!